Should Women Carry Condoms?
I don’t usually pay attention to anything about Producer and Black Eyed Peas frontman Will.I.Am, but he recently sat down with ELLE, to discuss what he won’t tolerate in a relationship. Surprisingly, one of his pet peeves include a woman who keeps condoms at her house. Check out an excerpt from the interview:
If you walked into a woman’s house, what one item would convince you that you weren’t compatible?
If she had condoms in her house, that would just f–kin’ throw me off. That’s just tacky.
Well, okay, I could see if she had a candy bowl full of them on the coffee table. But if she’s got a few in a drawer, wouldn’t that simply suggest she’s health-conscious?
I just think, like, if you’re into someone and you guys get to that level, then that’s something you should converse about together and say, “Hey, maybe we should get some.”
From what I understand, he’s pulling the “I was not consulted” line, and as a Kenyan, let me tell you I’m sick and tired of hearing that shit. At the risk of TMI, carrying a condom is something that I’ve done quite frequently (Mummy please don’t cringe or put your shock face on when you read this :-) ). Women who don’t carry condoms or don’t keep them somewhere close get on my nerves and confuse me. Unless they’ve made a conscious decision to be celibate and are sticking to it. I’m not talking about the female condom. I actually have one at home but I’m yet to try it. It just doesn’t look too comfortable. I’m talking about the regular male condoms.
Let me put it into perspective. What do women carry in their handbags? Most women will have their make-up case just incase they need to retouch their makeup during the day, a wallet to put in their cash and cards, tissue paper for when they go to the bathroom at a public place, sanitary pads or tampons for emergency cases, lip balm to keep away dry lips, a bunch of keys, cell phones, pens, old receipts and maybe a stun gun or two for people who can’t take NO for an answer, but I digress.
Apart from that, women will throw in a thing or two inside their handbag depending on their personalities. There are those who love to read so they will carry a book or magazine inside their bags, those who love wearing high heeled shoes sometime carry an extra pair of flats incase they get tired from walking in heels and some women will always have an extra top inside their bags incase they will need to change for the day or night without having to go home (sirudi nyumbani he he).
So if I’m carrying all that and more, is it such a stretch for me to throw in something that may possibly save my life??? It’s not about being a slut. It’s about taking responsibility for my life. Why should I put it into the hands of another human being? When I was a kid and I did something wrong, there was never the option of saying “so-and-so told me to do it”. You took responsibility for your actions and faced the consequences. It’s still how things work now that I’m all grown up, so why should I be called a slut just because I choose to be prepared? Don’t I have the right to protect myself?
We all know that men will come up with any excuse to get it in without a life vest, including the “Dang, I forgot my condom, or I ran out,” excuse. So, if I really want to have sex and you are “out” everyone wins, and the party keeps on rolling. We are in an age where disease runs rampant and you should be questioning your partners stats and bill of health before bumping and grinding, so why would promiscuity be the first thing that comes to mind?
Is promiscuity a question because I come prepared, meaning I could have sex at the drop of a dime? Do good girls not carry condoms? We are back to that old double standard again. If a woman carries a condom she is a slut and if a man does he is being smart?
Let me tell you, a man has only one time to question me on why I’m carrying condoms. If you do, then I am covering up and you have to get out of my house (if the stun gun doesn’t get you first :-) ). That only tells me how insecure and ignorant you are. Your first thought should be whether or not you are protected, not who had the damn condoms. And if you’re one of those that need to pull out the condoms from your wallet just so you can feel like you’re the man, then you can miss me with the BS and keep it moving. My life is not negotiable.
P.S. Yes, that’s the best pic of Will.I.Am I could find…