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Why Are Women Delusional When It Comes to Relationships?

Women are suckers for love. That’s the plain and honest truth. I’ve seen a few men who would climb mountains or even take a punch for love, but women take the cake. Their behaviour sometimes just borders on irrationality or insanity even. A great example is the relationship between rapper Fabolous, real name John Jackson, and Emily Bustamante. I just don’t get how a man can totally disresprect me, yet I sit in his house, cook and clean for him. No way! Emily has stood by her man when he was shot, arrested, and surrounded by countless groupies on tour. She is Fab’s lady, friend, stylist, and the mother of his child. She recently gave an interview to Mashonda about how they met, and the dynamics between them.

He asked where I was from, and said that I should visit him next time I’m in New York. I gave him my number and watched him store it in his sidekick as “Emily VA”. I felt like, Wow, he’s only going to know me for my state. I never asked for his number, I felt if it was meant to be, he would call me. We stayed in touch on the phone and when he finally came back to VA to do a show, he called and invited me. We spoke everyday from then on and saw each other often.

Seriously??? If a man stores my name in his phone according to where he met me, there’s a serious problem. It’s going to be more of a problem if I find out that he did so. This woman was completely aware from the beginning that he would only be able to remember her by where they met. I need some help trying to understand this. Guys, are your memories that short? Is it impossible for you to save a name and remember that she had a nice smile, or you had butterflies, or simply that you would like to see her again? Talk about complete and utter disrespect. I guess it’s okay if you plan on hitting it then quitting it. But you can’t be with someone if you had no respect for them from the moment you met!

And it gets worse. This very same Emily gave another interview to Miss Info where she admits that Fab tells people that he’s single and she’s okay with that *blank stare*

On If Fabolous Sees Himself as Single or in a Relationship
He’ll go on the radio and they’ll ask, ‘Are you single?’ And he’ll say ‘As a dollar bill.’ But it’s funny because he’ll text me, and be like, ‘Don’t listen to the radio.’ I honestly feel and believe that [Fab the rapper] is a personality.

On Opening Up Publicly About Their Relationship
It was definitely like therapy for me because I’d never talked about it. And I didn’t realized that people had questions. I didn’t know people were like, ‘You’ve been with him how long? I’ve never heard of you. I’ve never seen you.’ And I was like, ‘If I’m okay with it, then why are you bothered?

If my fiance said something so stupid, even if it was on KBC radio (does it still exist?) I would show him exactly what single feels like. A man will only do what you allow him to do. If you let him act like a single man, don’t  be surprised when you start finding strange texts in his phone or catch him red handed in your bed with someone else. If he can disrespect you by not claiming you in public, my advice is to cut him off. Do not be delusional and think he will ever take you seriously.

Thirdly, she’s been with him for 8 years? What is he waiting for? A bell? Here’s what she thinks about marriage…

On If She Would Like to Get Married
Absolutely. But I wouldn’t want to be married to anybody that didn’t want to be married because I don’t want to be divorced either. He’s not the youngest guy, and I’m not even 30. I know it’s been a long time, but I’m not gonna force anything. If it happens it happens and it doesn’t maybe I’ll move on. I don’t know what the future holds.

If he has already told you that he does not want to get married, do not put your life on hold waiting for him. He could easily change his mind tomorrow and replace you with someone else. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen many times. Do you. You just may find the one who is willing to publicly claim you and even marry you if you are brave enough to step outside the comfort zone of just being with someone for the sake of it.


9 responses

  1. minimrs

    I can’t believe we’re still putting up with this kind of behaviour… no wonder they think they can get away with it! I don’t think it helps that women in the public eye (footballers wives in particular) are cheated on with prostitutes, or their teammates girlfriends, and just let it go. Then again i think that’s being a sucker in return for a nice house and big car.. 🙂

    March 10, 2011 at 11:07 am

    • RobbieRob

      Ding ding ding ding…to women(most, not all) its the materialistic things in life that matter…like standing in front if the mirror for hours caking on face colors or…does my hair look fine(looks no different from the last 6 times u asked me)…uhhh how many shoes do u need. Imagine taking a guy home…all night starring at his package and saying DANG I CAN WAIT…all for the man to drop a ‘cutlet cock’ out his underwear when u take them off….disappointing…or how bout waking up next to a stranger that looked nothing like they did the night before…until once again the hit the bathroom to cake on the next days colors…welcome to a mans world…full of let downs from day(or night) 1…thats my 2 pennies

      May 5, 2012 at 6:07 am

  2. Welcome to the blog minimrs.Yes, I also think they put up with it for the perks 🙂 I just don’t see myself being able to…

    March 10, 2011 at 11:52 am

  3. nkirdizzle

    My mum thinks such women are bewitched! I am beginning to think so too because it makes no sense why so many women are standing by loosers!! I just dont get it, but i am starting to think maybe its low self esteem or other intrinsic issues we may not understand smh

    March 10, 2011 at 3:59 pm

  4. tedonyango

    You are right. It is the low self esteem. The worst thing is that the longer you stay in the relationship, the more it erodes your self esteem! It ia a vicious circle girls….

    March 14, 2011 at 9:09 pm

  5. HelloKitty

    Honestly I like Emily. I’ve been following her on twitter for like 2 years now and she seems so humble and sweet girl. I don’t understand why she’s putting up with it but hey that’s her family and she living a good life! There’s many women that put up with that kind of treatment some are always beaten, and cheated on by men that are broke and good for nothing. Hey, at least Fab got some money! Lol. But it’s still not a good excuse for putting up with that shit, hopefully we’ll get a bigger insight on the show! Other than that I wish Emily and her family the best!

    March 23, 2011 at 8:18 am

  6. DEUCE

    emily b is a trick. yeah hell be married –when hes like 50 and hell marry some 20 year old heffa and emily bg will still be saying–“i know hes married but he really loves me.”

    December 4, 2012 at 11:07 pm

  7. Jon

    “A man will only do what you allow him to do.” Really?!?! For a self-described liberated, educated, strong woman, you sure are a small-minded, narcissistic sexist. Of course I could be wrong, and you would be totally ok with a guy writting, “A woman will only do what you allow her to do.”…but I highly doubt it. Of course given that only men, and what seems to be a general opinion that it is ALL men, are scum-bag sexist assholes, I guess we deserve it. Couldn’t be that feminist attitudes like this, stemming from the demonization men have suffered since the womens lib movement in the 70’s, are what causes men to not respect women.

    March 7, 2013 at 9:47 pm

  8. sam

    i am a man…and i’ll tell you the ladies here are astonishingly delusion, and don’t know what they’re talaking about…if i have to put a scale on how important to us “what you want ” on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being very important, i’ll say, 2 or 3 …keep horseshiting

    April 14, 2013 at 7:51 pm

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